Let me preface this post with a quote from yours truly:
"Don't let them walk over you, but don't walk over them either. If they refuse to keep up, pass by them on the right."
So, since I'm sure that doesn't make much sense out of context let me explain.
Do you have people you love? Yes? Ok. Do you have people you love that you can't be around for more than a few hours, or even minutes, at a time? Yes? Then you have enough experience to understand where I'm coming from.
There are going to be times when all you can do is shut your mouth and look straight ahead and do what you have to do because the people you love need you to be around the people you love but can't be around. There is only so much arguing you can do. There are only so many times you can stand up for yourself before you truly understand nothing is changing. You know you can't control what other people say and do. You know you can't control how other people feel or what they think. All you can do is self-reflect. All you can do is look at the situation from an impartial standpoint and understand what someone else might be going through to make them the way they are. Your reflection, though, does not change theirs. That's the hard part about all of this. You can't force others to reflect on their actions. You don't get to dictate what they see about themselves. Think about it. You don't even get to completely dictate what people see about you. You can do your best to be your best but some people still get your picture twisted and black and white when you're clearly full of vibrant colors.
So how do you handle it? Well, I'm sorry my friends but only you have your answer to that. Only you know what would be best in your situation. Only you know what you would be comfortable with. Only you can determine what needs to be done for you to keep your sanity. But I will tell you this - one important key to this situation: be kind. Understand that everyone lives life in their own time frame. Everyone is struggling with something. If you truly love the people around you, love them enough to look beyond yourself. Love them enough to give up words that are not necessary to keep peace. Love them enough to love them unconditionally.
~until next time
Working a full time job, raising two daughters, attempting to have a social life, trying to make my family proud, and trying to make myself proud are things I do every day. I'm now beginning my journey of giving. This is step one.