Dear Mr. Not Single But Lonely,
First, let me say I know. I know exactly how you're feeling. I know what it feels like to try so hard to communicate with someone and they just refuse to take responsibility for their actions. They let you speak your whole truth, but refuse to acknowledge their role in the healing. In the situation I was in I think the other person just wanted to pretend nothing happened instead of working through reality.
All I can tell you, my dear, is to accept that you can't make her do anything she doesn't want to do. You can't make her process things differently. She may not ever see your situation in a way that makes sense to you.
But what are you going to do about that?
The way I see it, you have to decide what you are willing to allow in your life. You must draw a line somewhere for the type of energy you accept in your space. Until you draw that line you will not find peace. You can continue to fight for the relationship you once loved, or you can accept that not everyone will treat you the way you treat you. Not everyone deserves your energy. It is your responsibility to your own sanity to weed out those people who don't deserve your time.
I would never suggest what decision I think you should make for your own life. What I will do, though, is encourage you to remember this:
"What they eat don't make you shit."
Everyone makes their own choices. You are not held accountable for anyone's actions but your own.
At the end of every day you have to answer to yourself. Make decisions you can live with. Love yourself, and value your sanity.
You got this.
~until next time
Working a full time job, raising two daughters, attempting to have a social life, trying to make my family proud, and trying to make myself proud are things I do every day. I'm now beginning my journey of giving. This is step one.