Geez, I haven't posted in a while.. sorry to have left you for so long, my friends!
So sort of funny story... I'll start by confirming for you all that I'm single, so I go out on dates from time to time. No one so far has been able to really spark my interest enough to take me off the market (Partially because I have someone in my back pocket who lives very far away, but I don't see that going anywhere long term).
So I meet this guy, and before we execute actual plans to go out and do something, we meet up at a local place to sort of see what the vibe is like. Almost immediately it gets REALLY awkward (I won't embarass him) but I was NOT ok with how the interaction was going. I go home and think about it all, and even told him what I was thinking and feeling, and he decides to "ghost" me. Now for those of you who don't know what that is, it means he just stopped responding and reaching out - with no explanation. I'm fine with that, we had only spoken for the first time a week earlier, so it was no big deal to me.
Fast forward a couple of weeks and I get a text message with some sort of cartoon self-help video. I have no idea who it's from (I don't save phone numbers of people I have no continuing relationship with - friends or dating) so I ask "Who is this?" I get no response. Then I see there is a comment on my last blog from this person (name was listed) with the same type of video. So I do the adult thing. I respond to the text asking him not to do that again and explaining that my website is a place to speak your thoughts, not carry out some butt-hurt agenda using someone else's words. His response: "maybe this will teach you something about yourself." Or something to that effect.
Now the fun part.....
People, don't EVER let someone else's words or actions make you question how or why you aren't comfortable with something. I am not a puppet, and I do not belong to you! I will be offended by what I please, and cut people off when I feel it is necessary. Sir, (you know who you are) I will tell you once and only once to get yourself together and realize who you are speaking to. I am not a young, or weak minded woman with no direction, taking on the feelings and opinions of others as her own. I will never feel bad for my actions unless I was wrong. I will never apologize for saying I don't want someone in my space. I will never NEED a man to make me feel beautiful, valued, or heard. With that being said, I have NO problem saying goodbye.
My friends, NEVER be afraid to do that ^^. You are important. You make the decisions regarding who you allow into your life and your space. Don't sell yourself short.
~until next time
Working a full time job, raising two daughters, attempting to have a social life, trying to make my family proud, and trying to make myself proud are things I do every day. I'm now beginning my journey of giving. This is step one.